We Are What We Think

First of all, it’s been a while since I felt so pensive. Not the emotional kind of pensive, but the full-of-thought kind of pensive.

Okay, down to business.

Been thinking a lot lately about my thoughts. Maybe I should rephrase it: I’ve been reflecting on my thoughts lately, and how these thoughts influence my actions and how it eventually influences my life as a whole. It’s like a domino effect, one tile after another.

Perhaps it’s due to my overthinking nature. I tend to think too deeply into the issue, no matter how serious things are. It’s not always the best thing to do, especially when the situation is not pleasant. I believe I’m not the only one who’s been through this. We always give ourselves more pressure more than the actual situation. *inserts the smirking emoticon*

But recently, a wise man shared with me that people who wants to do well in life only focuses on the bigger things- their goals. On the other hand, people who are negative will focus on the negative side of things, which will enlarge the negativity.

What You focus on enlarges

And I’ve decided, it’s time to look at the brighter side of things, not because it will give me a better life, but because it will keep me focused.

Way to go, Joanne!

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I Choose Me

“Most of my life has been spent trying to shrink myself. Trying to become smaller. Quieter. Less sensitive. Less opinionated. Less needy. Less me. Because I didn’t want to be a burden. I didn’t want to be too much or push people away. I wanted people to like me. I wanted to be cared for and valued. I wanted to be wanted. So for years, I sacrificed myself for the sake of making other people happy. And for years, I suffered. But I’m tired of suffering, and I’m done shrinking. It’s not my job to change who I am in order to become someone else’s idea of a worthwhile human being. I am worthwhile. Not because other people think I am, but because I exist, and therefore I matter. My thoughts matter. My feelings matter. My voice matters. And with or without anyone’s permission or approval, I will continue to be who I am and speak my truth. Even if it makes people angry. Even if it makes them uncomfortable. Even if they choose to leave. I refuse to shrink. I choose to take up space. I choose to honor my feelings. I choose to give myself permission to get my needs met. I choose to make self-care a priority. I choose me.”

– Daniell Koepke

Embracing Flaws

It’s so easy to pick out the flaws of the people whom you’ve known for a while.

But it takes love, effort and quite a fair bit of courage to embrace them and understand that these imperfections are what makes a person. And then focus on the positive instead of those flaws.

Something that I have been telling myself since I was 13, “Different types of people are positioned in our lives for us to learn to accept them differently.”

If you can’t embrace their differences, simple– “just draw them out of your circle!” said one of my cousins.

Easy as it may sound, how often are we willing to draw people (who may have made huge impacts in our lives in one way or another) out of our circles? And will running away from them help to overcome these characteristics that we can’t accept?

You’ll never know how quickly someone can change your life. Just be grateful, and have a positive mindset.

All will be well.

Be Thankful to be Happy

I once came across this quote that says “Thankful people are Happy people.” (I can’t remember the source but I sure am glad that i came across this.) It got me thinking about so many things.

I vividly remember being extremely happy for no specific reasons despite heavy workloads and issues to counter. It felt really good and things always seemed to be going my way. Every morning, I’d kick start my day with some of the most inspiring quotes from everywhere and bounce out of bed for school. I can’t remember one day where I was not happy during that period.

Recently, I’ve been looking for ways and things to do in order to feel like that again. Although I don’t remember it being difficult to achieve, I feel that this time around, there were more things to take into consideration.

After reflecting and a lot of self-talk, I realised that being appreciative is so important. It was probably the law of attraction working its magic. I felt that as I got busier and invested my time in new aspects of my life, my focus shifted. I was stepping out of my comfort zone and things were different from what I was used to. It took me some time to adjust to the new changes, but I am thankful that I managed to. After all, they say change is the only constant and I should only be flexible and ready for it anytime. Its not easy, but that’s how we learn and grow.

Okay, back to being thankful. Despite all the changes, I knew that being thankful is important no matter. I was thankful, and still am. But maybe not as genuine, sadly.

O well, good thing is, there’s still a lot to improve on from here. And I choose to believe that things will only get better from here as I grow to be genuinely thankful!

I’m gonna be busy making my days happier from now. Here’s to happier days ahead!

I Want To Be Taken Care Of

I do enjoy giving, I really do. I always believe that being able to give is a blessing. But being taken care of is something that is special in its own ways.

This is one lovely article that spoke my heart.

Thought Catalog

I desperately, whole-heartedly, want to be taken care of. Not in the pathetic, annoying sense. But in the loving and caring sense. I want someone to do little things for me, just because they know it will make my life easier. I don’t want people to always ask for something in return—I just want them to things selflessly.

As the oldest child of three and a stubborn, independent 20-something, I have lived the last two decades of my life caring for and giving to others. Editing papers for my little brother, consoling my younger sister, taking care of friends and significant others at the drop of a hat. And I wouldn’t have it any other way. I love my family and friends, I truly, wholeheartedly do. And I would do anything for them. But sometimes I feel like the relationships aren’t reciprocal in the way I need them to be—and…

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Short note to self

Remember those times where you could stay so positive through the tough periods? What about that spirit to want to do your best and treat everyone you with the best that you can offer? Remember those days where you were more thoughtful? And those moments when you feel happy but got no idea how did you become so happy? 

No, don’t find back that old happy self. This time round, let’s strive to be more positive, a lot happier, a little more thoughtful that before and be better than the best that you were yesterday.

Have faith, have faith. You can do this!

20 little (beautiful) things

Read an article titled ’20 little (beautiful) things’ online and was inspired to do my list of 20 beautiful little things that made a huge difference to my life, or made me a happier person altogether.

1. Being able to wake up this morning.

2. A busy but good day well-spent with the people who makes me happy.

3. Family, Cousins, Nieces and nephews.

4. My handy notebook that helps me keep track of the little things.

5. Lovely handwritten letters.

6. Meals with the people who matter most.

7. Grateful and happy people.

8. Floral dresses.

9. Telepathy.

10. Finishing a piece of work after a long while.

11. Feeling happy again after something negative.

12. The polaroid films taken with some of the most important people in my life, attached on my stationary box.

13. Encouragements.

14. Macarons.

15. Surprises.

16. Bumping into friends I have missed so much.

17. Spending time alone.

18. Thoughtful gifts.

19. Warm smiles on the faces of older adults.

20. Home-cooked food.

The “Chosen Ones” Choose Themselves

“But luck is just an opportunity. It’s just an open door. You have to decide to walk through it and to make something of it.”

Thought Catalog

In 1994, a young woman asked for an order of restraint against her husband and filed for divorce. With no job and little money to live on, she signed up for welfare benefits so that she could afford to care for her baby daughter.

The woman’s mother had died a few years prior. She had a rocky relationship with her father and they hadn’t spoken in years. And now, as a single parent with a failed marriage and without a job, she was battling depression and on the verge of suicide.

Years later, she would refer to herself as “the biggest failure I knew.”

However, during the five years that followed her divorce, this woman would battle through fear and depression and go from living on welfare to becoming a multi-millionaire. And she was just getting started.

The woman’s name was Joanne, but the world would come to know her…

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The Music Quiz

Been long.

Was googling for some fun things to do while taking a break from assignments. And this music quiz appeared, which explains this post. 

Here goes!

 

How do you feel today?
Safe and sound – Taylor Swift

If someone says “You’re hot” what is your response?
Secrets – One Republic

How would you describe your life?
Speak now – Taylor Swift

What is your life long goal?
Oath – Cher Llyod

What do your friends think of you?
Dancing away with my heart – Lady Antebellum

What do your parents think of you?
Here’s to never growing up – Avril Lavinge

What do you often think about?
Heart in my head – Austin Mahone

What do you think of your significant other (Or your crush / dream man / woman in case you’re single)?
Glowing – The Script

What does your best friend always say to you?
Something to believe in – New Heights

What do you want to be when you grow up?
Beautiful – Carly Rae Jepsen

What is your favorite witticism / catchphrase?
Realise – Colbie Caillat

What will you dance to at your wedding? ( / did you dance to)
One Love – Justin Bieber

What will be played at your funeral?
Till my heart stops beating – Joe Brooks

What is your biggest fear?
Monster – Big Bang

What do you think of your home?
She sets me free – Tim Halperin

What do you wish you were doing now?
Give the love around – The Script

What was the last thing you said out loud?
Armageddon – Guy Sebestian

What are you thinking about?
Believe – Justin Bieber

What do you wish for?
Forever and always – Parachute

Describe your looks.
Invisible empire – KT Tunstall

Describe your personality.
Bubbly – Colbie Caillat

Describe yourself as a whole (Looks & personality combined).
Shine your way – Owl City

What do you think of this quiz?
Everything at once – Lenka

Dear You,

It’s been long since you spent some really good time alone, hasn’t it?

There isn’t a lot of time left before the shops around town calls it a day, but aren’t you just glad that you’re able to take time off?

You’ve been reminding yourself time and again that its impossible to please everyone around you. So why do you still feel the need to do so? Perhaps, its something that you feel comfortable doing. Guess what, its probably time to step out of your comfort zone and make yourself happy first. Furthermore, how much joy can you bring to the people around you if you’re lacking, right?

That’s not important for now. Go and do what you like, and search within for who you truly are.

Regards,
Jo

Ps. And don’t forget the people who have been there for you right from the beginning. Maybe its time you rearrange your schedule and make time for them. Wake up your idea, you won’t even need someone to remind you about it if those people mattered to you.